What is wrong with me? I hear this question often, and I ask it more times than I wish to admit. The question often follows a scenario involving home, work, or both. Perhaps it is this.
The sink is full of dirty dishes, the cupboards are lined with crusted pots and pans, and piles of laundry cover couches and beds. The floors need cleaned, and the remains of breakfast are still on the breakfast bar. I can't find the insurance form that needed signed and returned two days ago.
What is wrong with me? I ask, tired and exhausted over a cup of cold coffee.
You know, or think you know, based on what you imagine others think or what they have implied. Heck, even what some have said to your face.
Although you don't want to go there, answers to the question flood your head: lazy, worthless, slob, failure, no-good, mental case, crazy . . .
Your self-esteem is so low that the spatula used to turn the breakfast pancakes is needed to scrape it up from the floor.
Stop! Wallowing in self-pity of being a worthless mom, son, daughter, spouse, worker, friend, lover, provider, employee, employer, partner, person, isn't the answer. Negative thoughts produce more negativity. Look around.
What you see is what your thoughts created.
Before the physical mess that surrounds you can be cleared, the negative feelings in your head must be cleared. You can only clear one dirty dish at a time. Do the same with each destructive concept in your mind.
This is where EFT (http://keenehealth.net/id6.html) does its best work. Take each issue one by one. Tap on the karate chop point and address the issue exactly as you feel it: Even though I am worthless, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Tap the eight basic meridian points on the face, collar bone and under the arm or wrist. Do this until negative emotions or responses of being called worthless cease. Clear them all out. Don't stop until you laugh about the thought of being lazy, crazy, and no-good.
Now, get up and clean up the mess. Or whatever needs done. Begin one step at a time, and continue until the job is done.
